Compliments at it's best!

Earlier I had a bbm convo with an old homie... who said to me "you should appreciate yourself more, I don't think you give yourself enough credit. You're more genuine than you think. You also need to start being a little selfish"=)And I was very appreciative from hearing this. I mean I know the people who love and care for me, feel this way as well, but it's totally different when someone says it to you in a random convo.

So I sat back and started to think over it... and I've come to a conclusion.............................. I love me and I'm all kinds of amazingggggggg. LOL. I thought about all the shit I've done for people, and about how much I've forgiven. And how selfless I always am, how much I put others before me, the endless things I do for people I love...... and my friend was right, I need to appreciate me more. I don't normally sit and brag about myself and all the goodness I carry, lol.... so I'm sharing with you what my friend shared with me today. I'm fuckin awesome! ;)

Now take the time and think about how awesome you are... and broadcast that shit for once.

It's harder than it looks.

While using the bathroom at the movie theatre last week, I looked in front of me and found this writing on the door, so I took a pic of it. Not sure if you can really read it, but this girl writes "If he hits you just once, leave. After that, you're asking for it." Ummm, whaaaat??? I went to school for Assaulted Women's and Children's Counselor, so i kinda have some perspective of what the crack some of these females think. A lot of them assume it's easy for women to walk out of an abusive relationship. They question why these women can't just up and leave. As if it's so easy!!! And I have questioned this at times for people that I love, but you really have to understand where they're coming from. It may be easy for some of you, but it doesn't come that easy for others. Everyone has their own reason whether it be a good enough one or not. Don't judge the life other women are living when it comes to sensitive situations like this. It really pisses me the hell off when females talk shit. You have no idea what half these women are going through, you have no idea the everyday abuse they put up with and why they do it. Unless you have experienced it first hand, why don't you take a seat and shut it! And perhaps, some of you may have experienced it, and it was probably not that hard for you to leave right?! But, everyone is different. Your scenario may not be the same as hers, your level of courage and strength may be different. Before you judge, reanalyze what the judgment is over.

Everyone has faced some sort of abuse in their lifetime, if you haven't, then you may still experience it. Not hoping you will... but it's something called the "hardships of life." As women, we're bound to experience it one way or another. It doesn't just have to be Physical abuse, it also ranges from Verbal, Emotional, Sexual... etc. So ladies, just put yourself in her shoes before you go ahead and judge her life and what she's incapable of doing. Just remember, it takes her more strength and courage to put up with that shit as well. The same amount it takes for you to leave, is the same amount it takes for her to stay.

Stay up women!

Sincerely,

Liberated Cass

Interesting Fact:

We have more American viewers then Canadian, lol. There's a different percentage from other countries but those are the highest. I was surprised to see the Americans leaping over more then half of my own Canadians. Nonetheless, appreciate the views and reads =)

Where my Heart is.

Been some time since we've blogged. Every one's got their shit going so apologies on our behalf.

Been kinda off on what to blog about lately... i wanted to blog about something sincere and genuine, nothing else sticks out right now but NEW YORK!

I'm visiting again soon, and it's been the only thing on my mind for the past few days, lol. Maaan i love me some NY. If you haven't been, you're missing out. The feel of the city is just something so good. That's home away from home, always has been and always will be. If you don't like that big city feel, then DO NOT go there, lol.

I love the amount of people you have to brush while walking, the nasty subway smell, the insane traffic. The yellow cabs, police sirens, sneaks hanging off electric wires. That Nu Yawk minute. The millions of bags you'll always have to carry cause everything is so damn cheap. The never ending sneakers. The big lights. $2 cab rides.

MadisonSquare.CentralPark.TimeSquare.34thSt.SoHo.TheApollo.JamaicaAve.StatueOfLiberty.EmpireState.ConeyIsland.GrandCentral.RockefellerCenter.BronxZoo.QueensBridge.YankeeStadium.WallStreet.TheVillage.Broadway.Chelsea.CanalSt.LittleItaly.StatenIslandFerry.WashingtonHeights.StPatrick'sCathedral.MetMuseum.

Those are to name a few of what have popped in my head. If you haven't been... then GO! I promise you won't be disappointed ;)

These streets will make me feel brand new:

Cass

Be Real !

One of the things that kill me the most are... Liars. I just feel as though honesty isn't as hard as people make it to be. It really isn't that hard to be real and tell the damn truth right? Well, to some folks it seems like telling the truth is this ginormous deal. When you're such a big liar and practically lie about every thing you can, honesty tends to be hard for you. Nothing is worst then your loved one lying to you. It's the biggest stab in your chest. You may as well rip my heart out and step all over it, cause that's exactly how it feels. I just think "lying" is such a SELFISH thing to do, and I don't appreciate it in any manner.

Just be REAL y'all... Be straight up and honest about shit. Cause realness is what makes you stand out. I appreciate people who can be straight with me and tell me what it really is, cause at the end of the day, that's exactly how I'm gonna give it to you.

Real as it gets:

Cass

Happy Birthday Stephanie !!!!!

Shout out to our fellow AOMPer Stephanie aka Stevie. Happy Birthday gawjus! Hope you're having an amazing time in Israel and living it up for the next couple weeks till you return. We did a special video for you :)

P.S. This vid does us no justice due to the horrible angle, LOL... So umm yeah just saying!

Love:

Mons & Cass

xoxo

Friendship.

I was wishing someone from high school a happy birthday today... Then I realized I was turning 26 in a couple months (ouch). I thought back on high school and how long ago that was. About 12 years ago... And believe it or not, I have kept contact with so many people. I'm still so close to friends I went to high school with, better yet, even my elementary friends. I have 16+ years of friendship with certain friends. And I don't mean the type of friends you know for over a decade but see and talk to here and there. I'm talking friends that I still have daily convos with and still go out with. It's insane when I sit here and count these years. Good ass friendship is def rare, and I'm glad I got my pick. Throughout the days, weeks, months and years you come to realize who's there for you and who isn't. You notice who shows up for your birthdays and who checks up to see how you're doing all the time. In my case, I always got respect for those genuine friends who look out for my daughter as well. Also, I can't forget the few friends in my life that haven't been there a long time but surely show me the effort they make within our friendship. You don't always need to know someone for a decade to build that quick closeness, if you connect, then it works.

So let's have a toast to my genuine few... adding on the years to the years of our friendship =)

Thank You!

Just wanna take a minute to thank all the readers for reading. Every time i check the stat bar, it surprises me all the time. Even when we lack on posts, I notice people still check us out. So a round of applause to y'all for reading the everyday bullshit and rants =)

Hope you continue to keep us as a daily dose and read away what we have to offer!

AOMP
xoxoxo

How to lose a girl in 10 days…ooor within 60 seconds!

This post was inspired by a message I received from a friend of a friend that I had spoken to once prior to this…

xxxx:
PING!
Yo babbbbbby
how are u. Long time no hear

If you know me…you can only imagine my reaction to this.
Something along the lines of "wtf?!" *insert vomit face*

Since I had just happened to have watched the movie how to lose a guy in 10 days and have recently experienced waaay too many mistakes made by perfectly nice guys, I decided I needed to write a small DON'T list for our male readers. So let's begin from the message above…

Men, please DON'T…

1) Start a conversation with a girl you barely know with a 'PING!'… I am now immediately annoyed by you.

2) Call me "baby" unless I AM your baby… and that rule goes for "sweetie" and any other 'cute' name you try to make up for me. I don't know you like that!

3) Change your bbm profile picture to you taking a picture of yourself without your shirt on…that is NEVER okay or cute. P.S girls like a little mystery too

4) Invite a girl you've known for one week to your uncle's famjam… does this require any further explanation???

5) Ask the girl you're interested in 25 miilllliionnn questions about herself …getting to know each other should not feel like you're getting grilled by an interview panel

6) Use cheesy ass lines like "For a girl with such a gorgeous smile, you should smile and laugh more often"…. First of all, women that are smart can pick apart a compliment from a line and secondly, if a girl isn't smiling and laughing around you, maybe there's a reason for it…YOU!

7) Ask a girl about her schedule every other day…if she really wants to go on a date with you, she'll get back to you!

These are just the fresh ones on my list but I'm sure you ladies have plenty to add so feel free to leave some comments. PLEASE help me help the men of this world!

To: YOU.... From: US

Just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas real quick. Hope y'all enjoy the holidays to the fullest and spend time with your loved ones. It's not about just gifts but we sure do hope Santa is good to you ;)

- Cass, Mon & Stephanie

xoxo

LADIES... we don't give ourselves enough credit!

So... yesterday morning my hair stylist bbms me asking me a question. "Cass, what physical features don't you like about yourself?" And did I have a list of things I mentioned, LOL. I don't have low self- esteem, but as every woman out there... there's things about myself I wish I could improve. It's not that I hate my body or I am uncomfortable in my own skin, but c'mon... none of us are perfect and there's nothing wrong with improving certain things. Not like I'm tryna get a full body surgery or something, lol.

So any who... I asked her why she was asking me that question, and she said "I was just curious... women in our city are so gorgeous but we never see that within ourselves." And so with the boredom of my day I surveyed away, lol. I asked a good few women, most that I am close to of course. And the answers I got were surprising. We look at every damn thing on our body. Shit 99.9% of people wouldn't even notice. LITERALLY!!!!

These are some answers I got from some females... The things they weren't necessarily a fan of, wished they could improve, but at the same time I hadn't noticed any of these things, lol.

- Weight (we kill ourselves over this one)

- Too much hair (if i can get laser treatment on everything... i would)

- Skin problems

- Teeth (I wish I had braces as a child)

- Knee caps (literally... knee caps. Nobody will notice this but YOU)

- Ears

- Hair

- Too much boobs or not enough

- Stretch marks

... and the list friggen goes on...

Now, I wanted to ask some of my boys what they didn't like about themselves... and as you may have guessed, most of them said I LOVE MYSELF! Lol. The only thing i really got was "I wish i was taller" ... K, so why the f#ck does it go this way. You got most of these dudes who think they're A-okay, and we got more than 95% of women out there who have so many things we would love to improve.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with how we feel about ourselves. It is totally natural that when we look in the mirror, we think "umm i wish my stomach was flatter" lol. But at the same time, does all this shit really matter? Is anyone out there perfect? We def don't give ourselves enough credit. More than half the things my lady friends mentioned, I never even noticed. I've known some of these girls for yearssss, and I don't see any of those features they mentioned. They look perfectly fine to me. There were a couple women out there who said they love themselves just how they are. They said that they have accepted who they are and have embraced it. BUT, that still doesn't mean you don't look at yourself in the mirror and wanna improve something. Kudos to you if you have embraced it all... and don't get it twisted, all the women I spoke to are all confident. Just cause you find something wrong with your body does not mean you haven't embraced it. I'm content with myself YET there's always room for improvement.

So seriously... as we bicker about our weight, who gives a shit eat that steak. As we talk about how much we hate our stretch marks, we can't change it. We complain about our teeth not being straight enough, Smile anyway cause whomever is falling in love with you, surely isn't for your frown. Our boobs aren't perky enough?!?! Totally take that bra of while you're making love cause you know for damn sure he's loving it no matter what.

Always room for improvement, but no need to dwell over these things. Beautiful regardless of our knee caps, weight, thin hair, dark circles under our eyes, feet, stretch marks, ears... and the million other things we talk about. At the end of the day.... NOBODY is born without a FLAW. When you sit there and think about all the things you don't necessarily like about yourself, flip that around and think about the things you do love about yourself ;)

SideNote: I put some pics up of my gawjus lady friends... just by looking at them you would never see that there's anything noticeable right?! But of course we all look at ourselves and notice every little flaw to US. I don't give a shit if I'm not fit, I'm going to a buffet tonight!!! =) =)

R.I.P Gregory Isaacs

The Cool Ruler died yesterday due to suffering lung cancer. He def made Reggae... Reggae!

Empire State of Mind

(Pics above were taken from the Empire State Building)

Before i get into my post about NY... let me just say WOW!!! I haven't blogged in forever. I actually barely even go on my laptop anymore, that's prob why. In any case, i wouldn't wanna be m.i.a like Mon, lol... some one's gotta maintain the blog. So here goes...

Where do i start about New Yawk?! My mom's whole family live in Queens, NY... I've been going there since i was a child and my love for it has grown on every trip. When i was in high school, people called me a "yankee" cause that's how often i was there, lol. It's def home away from home for me, and i appreciate everything that city has to offer. From the 24hr metro, to the hundreds of cabs on the streets, to having to being allowed to bring your own food in the theatres (lol), to how extremely crowded everywhere is, to keeping up with the new yawk minute and to being in Time Square any time of the night and it still being crowded. *deeeep sigh.

Don't get me wrong... i love my city. Toronto will always be my home, but NY will always have my heart. T.O.... the streets are quiet by 9pm on weekdays... weekends by 11pm, lol. I will get kicked outta the movie theatre if i bring in my own food. Downtown is not the place to be any time of the night, it gets pretty silent. The subway stops running at 1:30am... really 1:30 am?!? That's whack! I mean i wouldn't trade growing up anywhere but here, BUT... i wouldn't mind a change at all. And i can guarantee you that if and when i do move outta t.o, you can catch me in NY.

People always tell me i hate on my city... there's no hating here. But a change of atmosphere is needed and NY is my hot spot. I don't see anything wrong with bigging up a diff city. And i dedicate this post to my NEW YORK :) Soon I'll be living in a 'loft' up in Manhattan, with the sounds of the busy streets and the polluted air, lol. I've been taking the bf to NY with me the past few times i went, he loves it-- loves it, so maybe he can join me in my move away ;)

To end this post you know i hadta post this vid up... lol. It's only right =) If you haven't been to The Big Apple, you're missing out.

“I love you, and because I love you, I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies.”

And ain't that the Truth!!!

Keepin' it 100...

Meet the homegirl that's been around for a minute now. I don't usually do posts on 'friends' and such, but this feels deserving. Met her over a decade ago... and we still running it. I don't even know where to start, but this is by far one of the most successful friendships I've ever encountered within my life. You know when you have the type of friends you don't talk to everyday, cause you got shit going on in your own life... YET, when you do talk you feel as though nothing has been lost and you just pick up on your last convo? Or when you begin to tell your friend a story and then they say "you already told me about that"... it's like damn what haven't i told your ass!?!? Or when you have a million inside jokes to share, that's how you can tell how much time you've spent together (lol)? That's Us! Homegirl has had my back since day one and has been nothing but 100 with me, realness as real. True love is hard to find, BUT, true friends are even harder to find. Backstabbers, haters, two-faced, negatives, and so on forth don't exist in our small circle. We keep it moving. Jokes infinite, growth roomful, memories immeasurable... Here's to another 50 years; I got your back just the same =)

Moment of Truth

So i bbmed the bf yesterday morning and said "Guru from GangStarr died" I know if he was in front of me i woulda seen tears drop, cause anyone can point out to good music which involves a good artist. And i was just kidding about him crying, actually i really don't know cause he really would for a true hip hop artist. & I hope he's not reading this. Anywho, his friend at work said "why can't souljah boy die or something" ... on the real though... I mean nobody is hoping bad on anyone, but why must the good artists die, like shit!!!

Pay respect where respect is due... Guru was fighting Cancer for a bit but couldn't beat it. Very sad. R.I.P.

Peace & Love

"Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars... Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that."

Happy Martin Luther King Day!!!

Peace & Love:

Cass

"7000 Haiti earthquake victims buried in mass grave"

I really didn't wanna upload a diff pic for this post, the pics I have seen thus far are def not eye- bearing. The pic below shows how badly this earthquake has destroyed Haiti , and it's not even 5% of how much they have lost.

I cannot begin to imagine the sufferings the people in Haiti are going through. All I can really do is put my prayers out there, and condolences all around. To all he people who are tryna reach out to their loved ones, i really really do hope you find them well and safe.

To my Canadian folks: You can make a financial donation to The Canadian Red Cross Haiti Earthquake fund online at https://redcross.csfm.com/haiti/index.php or call toll free 1-800-418-1111.

To my American folks: You can make a donation to The American Red Cross International Response Fund http://redcross.org/ or by calling 1-800-RED-CROSS (733-2767).

In addition you can also make a mobile donation. Text "Haiti" or "90999" on your cell phone to send a $10 donation to support Red Cross relief efforts in Haiti. They have already raised $5 million since yesterday morning, so your support DEF helps. Continue what you're doing folks and hopefully more are encouraged to do the same.

I'm sure there are many other ways to donate, but this is all i came across so far. Whether you're going to help physically, financially or by prayers... I encourage you to do something for this disaster.

To all that politics ish going on right now: We're gonna need you assholes to stop the bullshit and start helping in some positive way, cause for fuck sakes... thousands are dead and more are gonna die if they don't get the right aid.

Peace:

Cass