3.31.2010

Why relationships suffer...


... not in a particular order!

- Lack of Communicating! Learn how to communicate the right way with the person you're with. Throw the negative comments in the trash before you can have an open communication.

- Burnout! The honeymoon period doesn't last forever, although it is possible for some relationships to carry it on.

- Not compatible! They say opposites attract, but that's not always the case. It can surely get tiring to try to find similarities between each other.

- Lack of Commitment! It works two ways, you gotta give to receive. If you can't be committed, don't expect your partner to be.

- Unforgiving- It's hard to forgive, even harder to forget. But at some point or another, it has to be done. Comprises have to be made. Nobody is perfect.

- Bad feelings! Having those "gut" feelings and over analyzing into things. This never brings anything good out of a relationship. (I've been guilty of it)

- Pressure! Don't do it. Nobody likes to be forced or feel obligated.

- Jealousy! You should look at yourself in the mirror if you have been guilty of this before, it's quite UGLY.

- Lack of Understanding! If you can't understand each other on any levels, then you need to fix that asap.

- Silence within an argument! We all know what I'm talking about... that whole "I'm not gonna say shit to piss him/her off"... It doesn't work, it just angers the person even more. (Again... guilty)

- Abuse! In any format, whether it's verbal, physical, emotional or so on forth. It's not going to get anywhere if you are abusing your partner. How do you expect your relationship to be healthy if this is present in your relationship.

- Not sexually happy! This is a real issue. So try to find out what your partner likes and aim for it. Everyone loves to be pleased, don't hold back. It's important to have a healthy sexual relationship and connection between each other. "All work and no play makes jack a dull boy"

- "Curiosity" aka You are one nosy f#cker! Realllllly? No need in going through your bf/gf personal shit. Just because you're together does not give you the right to dig through their stuff. This is def lack of trust and isn't healthy.

- Lack of Trust! Why be with them if you can't trust them. There's a lot of reasons why people lose trust, or never even started to build that trust out of fear of getting hurt. But why be in that relationship if you can't trust them. That is such a waste of energy. How can you be with someone and be genuinely happy if you can't trust 'em.



I'm def not an expert at relationships, but this was my take just through my experience or others'. There's prob plenty more to add to the list but this was all i was able to come up with at the moment. Being in a relationship is no joke, it's almost like a full time job where you're always working over time. It has the good and the bad, the high and the lows... but it works for some and doesn't for others. The way i see it, just take it one day at a time. Love, accept, understand, cherish, forgive, trust and just be there for them and things should go smooth. Don't get me wrong, no relationship is perfect, it'll always be a roller coaster ride.

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