Just one of those days…

11:00am-2:30pm: happy

2:30pm – 3:40pm: angry

3:40pm- 3:45pm: upset

3:45pm – 4:25pm: crying

4:26pm – realized I'm on my period

4:27pm – happy

Being a girl sucks sometimes.

How to lose a girl in 10 days…ooor within 60 seconds!

This post was inspired by a message I received from a friend of a friend that I had spoken to once prior to this…

xxxx:
PING!
Yo babbbbbby
how are u. Long time no hear

If you know me…you can only imagine my reaction to this.
Something along the lines of "wtf?!" *insert vomit face*

Since I had just happened to have watched the movie how to lose a guy in 10 days and have recently experienced waaay too many mistakes made by perfectly nice guys, I decided I needed to write a small DON'T list for our male readers. So let's begin from the message above…

Men, please DON'T…

1) Start a conversation with a girl you barely know with a 'PING!'… I am now immediately annoyed by you.

2) Call me "baby" unless I AM your baby… and that rule goes for "sweetie" and any other 'cute' name you try to make up for me. I don't know you like that!

3) Change your bbm profile picture to you taking a picture of yourself without your shirt on…that is NEVER okay or cute. P.S girls like a little mystery too

4) Invite a girl you've known for one week to your uncle's famjam… does this require any further explanation???

5) Ask the girl you're interested in 25 miilllliionnn questions about herself …getting to know each other should not feel like you're getting grilled by an interview panel

6) Use cheesy ass lines like "For a girl with such a gorgeous smile, you should smile and laugh more often"…. First of all, women that are smart can pick apart a compliment from a line and secondly, if a girl isn't smiling and laughing around you, maybe there's a reason for it…YOU!

7) Ask a girl about her schedule every other day…if she really wants to go on a date with you, she'll get back to you!

These are just the fresh ones on my list but I'm sure you ladies have plenty to add so feel free to leave some comments. PLEASE help me help the men of this world!

PetPeeve#1

LIARS! I'm sure I've mentioned this before already... But I wanna say it again cause that's how big a pet peeve it is.

People who lie, make my stomach turn! It's so damn unnecessary, yet they still do it. But the truth shall always set you free ;)

Fresh Start

So tomorrow I start the last 4 months of my 5 lonnnggg asss years in school and I couldn't be more exciiiited! Not for school really..well not for school at all lol but for finishing this chapter of my life and moving on to bigger and better.

Ive started contemplating my goals for the year, things I wanna do and see...made me realize how much I really have to look forward to this year and the next few.

Feeling like 2011 really is my year for new beginnings and doing everything I've been dreaming of and waiting to do for yeeeaars! I'll finally be free in every which way to do whatever it is I want....can't friggin waaaait.

Hope you all feel as positive about 2011 as I do..2010 was a struggle for more than a few but this year is a winner..i can feeeellll it!

Twenty- Eleven!!!!

I haven't posted since X-mas Eve. I guess I'm over due for one, minus the post I just did 10 mins ago, lol.

Anywho... so It's a new freaking year and I can't tell you how happy I am. Last year was so full of whackness I just wanted to be over it and call it history. Hoping things go differently for me this year and the whole nine. I'm pretty confident it'll be a good year, I definitely deserve it =) I am also hoping that everyone else can have an amazing year. Besides myself, I know a lot of other people who've had a pretty shitty year.

I don't have much to really write for this post, but just wanna lay out my good wishes for y'all.

"Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can't change. Kiss slowly, play hard, forgive quickly, take chances, give everything and have no regrets. Life's too short to be anything but happy... sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past... stop planning the future... stop trying to figure out precisely how we feel... stop deciding with our mind what we want our heart to feel and sometimes we just have to go with "whatever happens... happens"

Happy 2011 y'all, Live it up!!!

To: YOU.... From: US

Just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas real quick. Hope y'all enjoy the holidays to the fullest and spend time with your loved ones. It's not about just gifts but we sure do hope Santa is good to you ;)

- Cass, Mon & Stephanie

xoxo

Finding Forgiveness

“Forgiving is love's toughest work, and love's biggest risk. If you twist it into something it was never meant to be, it can make you a doormat or an insufferable manipulator. Forgiving seems almost unnatural. Our sense of fairness tells us people should pay for the wrong they do. But forgiving is love's power to break nature's rule.” ~Lewis B. Smedes

Since I could remember, forgiveness was something my parents had taught us as children in very plain terms. When someone hurts you or you hurt them, say you are sorry and accept the apology. Furthermore, growing up in a Christian Orthodox home, we were taught to forgive like Jesus taught: straight from the heart, no judgment and to pray for those who have wronged you. Forgiveness cannot be practiced in plain terms as we grow older and I think many of you would agree that as hard as we try, Christian or no Christian, practicing Jesus’ wise teachings is a lot harder than the Bible has explained. As we grow older we learn hard lessons along the way, yet we forget to remember the basic things like “please” and “thank you” and naturally our concept of forgiveness becomes either jaded or we forget what it really means to forgive altogether. Since my recent heart break I have been dealing with a wide range of emotions: sadness, anger (which is really just more sadness), happiness and numbness and I have been putting the effort in everyday to work towards a more permanent state of happiness. However, in order for an individual to move on into a healthy state of mind, body and soul; I realized that I need to forgive this past love for the pain that was caused. Not just for me, but for him too. I have only really known forgiveness to be the kind where both parties are freed from the pain and have moved into a place where they are truly happy and that type of forgiveness can apply to any situation. Here’s my problem: how the hell do you forgive an ex that has hurt you? It doesn’t matter whether the Ex had cheated, lied or just gave up, pain is pain and it hurts no matter what. When two people (or maybe just one of you) have decided to call it off, neither one realizes how much damage was really done and how long the road to recovery really takes. I’m sure time heals all wounds, but I know forgiveness would heal it better. Accepting what was done and how things played out is a lot easier said than done because there is always the question of, why? I heard a saying the other day that “some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers,” and it’s the best answer to the “why” then anyone could ever give you and truly more satisfying than the answer your ex could ever give you. If he/she could come up with anything better than “I don’t know.” Forgiveness is a selfish act, but only if you do it for yourself and only if you keep it for yourself and even still, if it is a selfish act…it’s the most positive one I have ever heard of. I have asked many of my friends what they thought forgiveness means to them and this is what some of you wonderful people shared.

“Forgiveness is when you’ve accepted the wrong that was done and you are ready to move on from it.”

–MV

“Everyone deserves a second chance, if they really feel sorry and what to change. I think refusing to forgive is harmful to you because it harbours hard feelings and harmful to others because it doesn’t them live it down without remorse and looming guilt. It’s easier to forgive and not necessarily forget or be close again. ‘They say to err is human and to forgive is divine.’

“Forgiveness is not to forget. I believe forgiveness comes when one is ready to reflect on the past experience and has been able to learn from it.” K AE

“Forgiveness helps some people heal, I guess, but personally; if someone hurt you horribly I don’t think forgiveness helps.”

“Forgiveness is when you can come to terms with what has happened and you’ve realized that in actual fact what is meant for you is for you and no one person can alter that state. No one ever needs to forget, but definitely be able to put it behind you and move upwards and onwards….I think?” -TP

“Forgiveness is when you love someone so much that you can erase the pain they have caused you, or make you blind to the hurt they will cause again.” -NB

“Forgiveness is the act of turning the other cheek. It’s when you can come to an acceptance of why someone did what they did. It’s when you can say, ‘I forgive that person and pray for them in the future.’“ -N F

“I think it’s letting the person who have done you wrong know that you haven’t forgotten what was done, but you won’t forever bring up the issue, you’re allowing them to re-enter into your life. It’s as if you’re starting over with that person, no grudges held, and you are giving them the benefit of not doubting for the future.” -JR J

“I’ll think about it in the shower… Forgiveness is overcoming someone’s bad decision.” -A I

“Forgiveness for me is situational and also depends on who the person is. I don’t just have an all-encompassing concept of forgiveness.” –MB

“The innate ability to 'turn the other cheek' as it were. Forgiveness being Christ's gift to the world and all. Forgiveness is knowing someone's faults, and loving them anyway. Forgiveness is being stolen from and still having the ability to say a kind word about the person who did it. Forgiveness is being called a 'C**t' and still talking to the person said it. I would describe it as the most attractive quality a human being can possess (Even better than a sweet ass, beautiful face and perfect hair) and what separates Christianity from every other religion.” -CH